Sadhguru Reveals the One Habit That Quietly Destroys Most Marriages

‘Marriages are made in heaven,' sounds sweet, right? Not exactly, says spiritual mentor Sadhguru. He believes this romantic cliché is actually one of the biggest reasons marriages fall apart. In his blunt and relatable style, Sadhguru explains why so many relationships crumble: we start expecting our partner to be a constant source of happiness. And that expectation, he says, is a silent marriage killer. Here's what Sadhguru really means, and how his simple relationship insight could save your marriage from hitting the rocks.

Sadhguru on the Biggest Marriage Mistake:

In a short video clip posted on Sadhguru's social media, the spiritual guru talks about the biggest mistake (according to him) that ruins marriages. "The biggest mistake humanity made was that they started saying: Marriages are made in heaven, and that's why it is such a mess," he shares.

Picture this: Most people enter marriage with stars in their eyes, fairy-tale dreams. But then reality hits hard - bills, kids, in-laws and fights. Suddenly, your spouse becomes the villain for not making you happy. But that's where most people go wrong, which makes their marriage miserable. Commenting on this, Sadhguru says in the clip that marriage isn't destiny's gift; it's two humans navigating needs.

Why Humans Treat Partners Like “Need‑Machines”

Humans need machines, Sadhguru further explains. "There are needs in a human being - physical need, psychological need, emotional need, social need, economical need, and a variety of needs. To fulfill these needs you need to find one person to depend on."

Sadhguru's Simple Fix: Practice Constant Gratitude

Expecting one human to fulfill all your needs is a sure shot recipe for resentment and heartbreak. And so, Sadhguru's solution to this is: Gratitude. "If you understand and are always grateful for it that someone is fulfilling all your need, you would handle it well," he said in the video.

But problems arise in a marriage when people start thinking that the other person needs them more and they stop bring grateful. "But now you think somebody else needs you, then you'll make a mess out of it," he explained.

Instead, the golden rule that keeps marriages running is according to Sadhguru is, "This is not about you squeezing happiness out of somebody, or they squeezing happiness out of you. If two happy people meet, then there could be something wonderful happening between them. But you are a misery and you think somebody else should be the source of your happiness. Well, it will multiply."

And isn't that true? Have you ever noticed how a simple "thank you" or being kind to your spouse works like wonders in your relationship?

After all, as Sadhguru says, marriages aren't made in heaven – they're built by grateful hearts.