Transform Your Mindset: BK Shivani's Advice on Owning Your Emotions

Many people often say, "If only this person changes, our house will be heaven on earth." They just believe that if only a person in their house could change, it would be perfect. But actually, the person being blamed, too, has the same thing in mind. They always say, "In our house, if only this person changes." This already exemplifies how we have usually blamed others and thought that our happiness really depends on them.

Taking Responsibility for Our Thoughts

BK Shivani, a well-known motivational speaker, reminds us we make our thoughts. We may know that it is our choice to think and feel a certain way. We still talk so much about other people controlling our emotions, as if a situation can give way to that. We often say things like, “I am angry because of,” “I am upset because of,” or “I am happy because of.”. These statements give power to others and situations, making us feel like we have no control over our emotions.

Changing Our Language for Inner Power

BK Shivani requests us to change our language. From today, we can stop blaming people or situations for how we feel. Instead of saying, "I am angry because of...," we might add, "I choose to be angry, but I can change it." This change in vocabulary enables us to accept responsibility for our feelings. When we stop blaming others, we restore our own inner power.

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The Impact of Blaming on Our Inner Strength

We are actually lessening our inner strength each time we blame others. We feel feeble and helpless because our happiness rests in the hands of others, we think. But whenever we change our speech and our thoughts, we feel we become more in charge of our emotions and of our life.

The change we seek starts with us. Changing the language we use helps create a more peaceful and happy life.