BK Shivani's Guidance for Emotional Healing & Inner Peace

Many times, people say or do things that hurt us. They may lie, cheat, or betray us. They can sometimes cause us physical harm. But one thing is certain: no one is able to access our minds and do emotional hurt. What others do happens outside of us. What happens inside our mind is under our control.

Emotional Hurt Starts in the Mind

BK Shivani explains that emotional hurt is not caused by someone else. They are caused by the way we think about what they have done. For example, someone might say something rude. That's their action. But the pain we feel comes from how much we think about it, talk about it, and repeat it in our minds. The more we focus on it, the bigger the wound becomes.

We Are the Ones Who Keep the Pain Alive

Rather than healing our emotional wound, we constantly discuss it with people we meet. We constantly re-open the wound, as in ripping off a band-aid and scratching the wound. Each time we think of the past, we halt the healing. We blame others, but in reality, we are the ones keeping the pain alive.

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Be a Detached Observer and Heal

To break the loop, BK Shivani recommends being a detached observer. Look at your thoughts from the outside. See how they influence your emotions. Choose to cease thinking about and discussing the hurt. Choose peace instead. Healing begins when we regain control of our thoughts and decide to move forward. Emotional hurt exists in our minds, and we have the ability to heal it.