Have you ever met anyone and immediately found yourself thinking non-stop about them? You keep looking at your phone, expecting their messages. You lose track of your hobbies, your job, or your aspirations. According to motivational speaker Gayathri Shivaram, this may be exciting at first, but it's not a good sign. When you're thinking about somebody all the time, it's not because they are that special. It's most likely a sign that you are not complete or happy within.

Obsessing Over Someone Means You're Ignoring Yourself

What It Really Says About You

Placing another person at the center of your world makes you forget who you are and what you're worth. You believe their love or attention will bring you joy. But this is wrong. Genuine happiness isn't derived from someone else. It is within you. When you need someone to make you feel good, you relinquish your power.

Why You Need to Put Yourself First

To love yourself doesn't mean you ignore others. It involves providing yourself with the respect and care that you need. When your inner cup is full and you feel self-assured, then you can love other people without needing others to love you back. Think of it like a cup—you are only able to give others love when your cup is full.

How to Get Back to You

Take time for yourself once again. Do the things that you previously used to love doing. Speak nicely to yourself. Remind yourself of your strengths. The more you value and love yourself, the less you will require others to make you happy. That's true self-love.

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Conclusion: Your Worth Comes from You

If you find that you are obsessing over someone, stop and check in with yourself. Chances are you've forgotten how great and worthy you are. Bring the attention back to you. Love yourself first, and everything else will begin to feel more in balance.